Love and Relationships with a Physical Difference
This interactive workshop will address the issues that can be faced in regards to finding love, a relationship or maintaining a relationship when you have a physical difference. And exactly what is a “physical difference?” Learn how to love your own body for everything it is! Identify intimacy “Into Me You See, “ and what it means for you.
The end desire is for individuals and family members to have a better understanding of the effects a physical difference may have on an individual’s potential for love and relationships. Recognizing how to love you own body for everything it is in spite of any physical difference you feel you may have. Learn how to get there. Know who you are and are you content with who you are. What are the tools you need to get there both physically and emotionally? How do others perceive you? What can you do to change that very dynamic?”
Identify how you feel, how you believe others views you. What do they see?? Sexuality and Intimacy has been a subject that has caused more anxiety than is necessary. Let’s discuss the topic of intimacy and sexuality and the myths associated with this topic. Discuss ways to feel more comfortable in regards to body image, self-esteem, dating, love, relationships, intimacy and sexuality.
“We will look at how our lives are impacted when it comes to dating, sexuality and intimacy following a burn injury. Sex and sexuality are important parts of everyday life. Intimacy is a way to connect closely with oneself or another person on an emotional or physical level.”
Cindy Rutter, Burn Survivor, Marriage Family Therapist, Former Nurse Manager
After surviving a house fire in 1959 at the age of 6, Cindy Rutter sustained 3rd degree burns to 85% of her body and underwent over 100 surgeries before her eighteenth birthday. Using her personal experience as a burn survivor, Cindy has made countless contributions to the burn community, encouraging the enthusiasm for life that she demonstrates every day. Cindy has been a role model and inspiration to children, women and men of all ages and all walks of life. She has dedicated her life to helping others see through to the other side of a traumatic experience.
Cindy has aided burn survivors clinically with her role as a medical professional, serving as a bedside nurse and Burn Center nurse manager, instilling a sense of hope, renewal, and possibility after burn injury to hundreds of patients and their families.
Beyond her duties as a nurse, she has been involved with countless organizations and groups to help create support recovery programs and teaching peer support training in both Canada and the United States. She was part of the team that designed, developed and implemented the SOAR (Survivors Offering Assistance to Recovery) Program, a peer support recovery program for burn survivors and their family members for the Phoenix Society. She also helped start a volunteer advocacy program for the Phoenix Society, organizing and training people to assist in spreading the word about fire safety, burn prevention, and the need for support for burn survivors everywhere.
After retiring as a nurse and bedside medical professional, Cindy then made the decision to not only help those affected by trauma, but any and all individuals who were in search of the tools to create their own amazing life. She took the leap and obtained her Master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from San Diego State University. Her work as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with couples, individuals, and families has helped transform the way they lead their day-to-day lives.
Cindy is a motivational speaker for organizations throughout the United States where she shares her incredible journey of overcoming adversity and rising to the occasion of living life to the fullest. Cindy’s prestigious honour’s and accomplishments in her ongoing journey of helping others to reach fulfillment and happiness include The Alan Breslau Award, California Nurse of the Year, the San Diego Chargers Community Quarterback Award, and recognition as a “Remarkable Woman” by Redbook Magazine, just to name a few. She has demonstrated through example, time and time again, that you really can live this one amazing life.